Support Group for Parents with Adolescents

Saturday, September 12th, 2015

A project of KIN & KiDS Marriage, Family and Child Therapy Center

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An 8-week experiential group where a small group of parents come together in a safe environment to explore the issues they experience with teenagers and to help each other to be better parents for the people they love.  The group leader will facilitate a dynamic group process for participants to learn and share their experiences therapeutically.

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Good night, sleep tight… but I just can’t!

Friday, September 11th, 2015

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Having a peaceful and easy sleep can be deeply satisfying. Unfortunately, one tenth of us suffer from insomnia, a condition characterized by difficulty falling or staying asleep. While most of us have experience days of poor sleep due to anticipation of exciting events or occasional stressful periods, we will usually be able to adapt to these situations within 2 weeks.

When the sleep problem lasts up to 2 weeks for at least 3 nights per week and affects our mood and functioning, we are likely to be suffering from acute insomnia. However, people usually seek help when they already have trouble falling or staying asleep for more than 3 months, when it has become chronic insomnia.

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“Mummy, I don’t want to go to school…”

Friday, July 24th, 2015

School refusalBy Frances Lim

A plea I made back when I was four years old as I refused to go to kindergarten. Bullied by classmates, the new environment created too much anxiety for me to bear. I remember waking up in the morning dreading to go to school and vomiting in trepidation whenever my appeal to not go to school was denied.

After two weeks, I dropped out of kindergarten because my parents reached a dead end. The fears I had about attending kindergarten again only subsided after my mother enrolled me at a place where I had some friends. Even then, it took me about a month to feel secure enough that my mother would come back for me after classes were dismissed.

What I was experiencing then as a child is known as school refusal.

“School refusal is defined as the behavior of staying home and away from school due to severe fear or anxiety.” – King & Bernstein, 2001.

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Suicide: When prevention is better than cure

Thursday, July 16th, 2015

By Soh Yoke Wah

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As a person who never had a suicidal thought, it was hard for me to fully comprehend what hardships or sorrows a person goes through for him or her to come to a state where the wish to die is so much greater than the wish to live. Perhaps you are like me, but this does not mean we cannot do anything to help.

According to Benjamin Franklin, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” For those of us who are around people who are struggling, we can move from being helpless bystanders to doing our part in reaching out to help those who are struggling with suicidal thoughts to prevent an otherwise tragic outcome.

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Loving or sexing children?

Friday, May 15th, 2015

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Newspapers and social media have been abuzz recently with the magnanimous offer of a government-funded college to one of their overseas scholars of a second chance to continue his academic pursuits despite being caught for the possession of over 30,000 videos and photos of child pornography.

While it is quite natural for people to develop loving feelings towards little children due to their cuteness and innocence, developing sexual feelings towards them is something society frowns upon and criminalises. Before we cast the first stone to condemn this person, let’s explore what makes a person develop such behaviour.

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Premarital Counseling – What every engaged couple think they don’t need; what every married couple believe they do!

Thursday, April 9th, 2015

By Joash Koh

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Marriage and divorce statistics in Malaysia have been a source of concern for family and marriage advocators, counselors and pre-marriage educators. Divorce rates in Malaysia have doubled in the last 8 years. Given the staggering divorce rates in a conservative Asian country is disheartening, to say the least. I grew up in a society where two generations before me, divorce was almost unheard of. It is not that there are no couples divorcing but the concept was such a taboo. Fast forward today, out of 214,799 marriages, there were 56,760 divorce cases in 2012. This translates to 1 divorce every 10 minutes in Malaysia!

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Someone I know is cutting!

Wednesday, March 11th, 2015

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It can be scary to discover that someone very close to you is deliberately hurting herself/himself by engaging in self-injurious behavior. And you might wonder why would someone do that?

Deliberate self-harm (also known as self-injury) is defined as direct injuring of one’s own bodily tissue without suicidal intent.

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Does my child have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder?

Wednesday, February 18th, 2015

By Lee Sook Huey

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity DisorderAt KIN & KiDS, we often get asked this question by parents who finding it challenging to keep up with their “hyperactive” child.  It is normal for children, especially toddlers, to be inattentive, extremely active or impulsive at times. Most children will learn to regulate their attention and behaviors following their cognitive development, but a minority of them do not seem to “grow out” of this phase.

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Happy Valentine’s Day! Here are four valentine tips from our KIN & KiDS therapists

Saturday, February 14th, 2015

Happy Valentine’s Day!

To celebrate Valentine’s Day, we asked four of our therapists to share one valentine tip that has helped them keep the spark in their relationship. Here’s what they said.

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Binge Gaming

Sunday, February 1st, 2015

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A fortnight ago, a 32-year-old Taiwanese man died of exhaustion after a 3-day game marathon at a cybercafé! While not everyone would end up dead playing internet games, many young people today spend hours on end “binge gaming”. What makes these games so addictive?

Computer games have evolved greatly from Disc Operating System (DOS) based games to animated games to what is now known as Role Playing Games. Massive Multiplayer Online Role Playing Games (MMORPG) is the “in thing”.

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